Do This and You'll Be Welcome Anywhere

Ways to Make People Like You

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

All of us, be we workers in a factory, clerks in an office or even a king upon his throne – all of us like people who admire us.

If we want to make friends, let's put ourselves out to do things for other people – things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness.

If we want to make friends, let's greet people with animation and enthusiasm. When somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology. Say "Hello" in tones that bespeak how pleased YOU are to have the person call.

Showing a genuine interest in others not only wins friends for you, but may develop in its customers a loyalty to your company.

"We are interested in others when they are interested in us."

A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations, must be sincere. It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention. It is a two-way street – both parties benefit.

If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people.

Reference:  How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie